Sex Toys for Couples – How to Choose and Use Them Together

Sex toys are often thought of as a solo activity, but in reality they can be one of the most effective ways for couples to add pleasure, closeness and curiosity to their shared sex life. Still, the topic makes many people nervous – how do you bring it up? What should you choose? In this guide, we cover everything from start to finish.

Why Are Sex Toys Good for Couples?

Many people fear that introducing a sex toy means "natural" sex isn't enough anymore. This is a common misconception. Sex toys don't replace a partner – they add experiences that hands or bodies alone can't provide.

Research shows that couples who use sex toys together report higher sexual satisfaction and better communication about sex than those who don't. The reason is simple: bringing toys into shared sex requires openness, curiosity and mutual trust – and all of these strengthen the relationship.

How to Bring Up the Topic?

This is the biggest hurdle for many couples. Here's how to make it easier:

Choose the right moment. Don't bring it up during sex or right after – it can feel like criticism. A better moment is relaxed and neutral: over coffee, on the sofa on a weekend, or even browsing an online shop together.

Use curiosity, not demands. "I've been thinking it might be fun to try something new – what do you think?" works much better than a blunt "I'd like to buy this."

Emphasise shared pleasure. "I'd like us both to enjoy this more" is an invitation to a shared adventure, not a complaint.

Browse together. For many couples, the most natural approach is browsing an online shop together with no pressure to buy anything – just looking together can open up fun conversations.

Which Sex Toys Suit Couples?

Wearable vibrators

Designed to be worn during intercourse. The device sits against the woman's perineal area and stimulates the clitoris while intercourse is happening. Both partners experience pleasure at the same time. Popular models include the We-Vibe Sync and Satisfyer Double Fun.

Remote-controlled toys

The partner controls the vibrator's intensity and rhythm via a smartphone app or remote control. Can be used at home or for adventures in public – the thrill is guaranteed for both.

Couple-controlled toys for intercourse

For example, the We-Vibe Chorus sits inside the vagina during intercourse and stimulates both the G-spot and clitoris at the same time as intercourse continues. Works especially well for couples where the woman needs clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.

A regular vibrator used together

The simplest option: a standard vibrator used by the partner during foreplay or intercourse. Requires no special coordination.

Vibrating penis ring

Fits around the man's penis during intercourse and simultaneously stimulates the woman's clitoris. One of the most popular couples' toys – simple, affordable, and highly effective.

Where to Start – Beginner-Friendly Choices

If sex toys are new territory for a couple, it's best to start simple:

1. A small, quiet vibrator – versatile, easy to use together or separately
2. A vibrating penis ring – an affordable starter package for couples
3. Massage oils – no technical device involved, but opens up a new dimension to foreplay

Avoid the most complex or largest products at first – simple works, and it lowers the barrier to entry.

Materials and Safety

The material of a sex toy is important. Always favour:

• Medical-grade silicone – the best choice, safe, easy to clean
• ABS plastic – harder material, safe
• Glass or stainless steel – long-lasting, easy to clean

Avoid cheap PVC or rubber products, which can contain harmful phthalates.

Cleaning: Always clean toys before and after use. Most silicone toys are waterproof and can be rinsed with soapy water or cleaned with a dedicated toy cleaner.

Lubricant: Always use lubricant for comfort. Water-based lubricant works with all materials. Silicone-based lubricant can damage silicone toys – check the product instructions.

A Shared Experience Makes the Difference

A sex toy doesn't work miracles on its own. It's a tool that, at its best, adds shared curiosity, communication and pleasure. Make room for the fact that not everything works perfectly the first time – and laugh about it together. Sex should be fun.

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