Squirting – What Science Actually Says

Squirting — the release of fluid from the vagina during arousal or orgasm — sparks an unusual amount of questions, myths, and even shame. Some dismiss it as pornographic exaggeration, while others experience it themselves but feel confused about what's actually happening. This article covers what science currently understands.

What Squirting Actually Is, Physiologically

According to current research, squirting fluid often contains fluid originating from the bladder, mixed with fluid secreted by the Skene's glands (sometimes called the female "prostate"). The fluid isn't entirely identical to regular urine, but it's not a fully separate phenomenon either. This explains why the topic has been so contested — it's likely a mix of two physiological processes rather than one or the other alone.

The Skene's glands sit around the urethra and are tissue-similar to the prostate. During intense arousal, particularly with G-area stimulation, these glands can secrete fluid that, combined with bladder contents, is released outward.

Why Not Everyone Squirts

Squirting isn't a universal experience, and its absence doesn't mean any deficiency or "failure." Factors influencing the likelihood of squirting include:

• Individual anatomy (Skene's gland size varies considerably)
• Pelvic floor muscle control and relaxation
• The ability to fully relax without shame or fear of an "accident"
• Type and duration of stimulation

Many people who never squirt still experience entirely normal and powerful orgasms. Squirting isn't a marker of a "better" or "more complete" orgasm.

The Most Common Barrier: Fear of an Accident

The biggest psychological barrier to squirting is often the fear that it's actually urination happening at the wrong moment. This fear itself blocks the relaxation necessary for the phenomenon to occur. The vicious cycle resembles performance pressure in other sexual contexts in many ways: the more you worry, the less likely it becomes.

How to Explore It Without Pressure

1. Empty your bladder beforehand. This reduces uncertainty and gives your mind permission to relax.
2. Put a towel down. Practical preparation removes one major worry in advance.
3. Focus on pleasure, not the goal. If squirting becomes a goal in itself, pressure usually prevents it from happening. Let it be a possible byproduct, not the destination.
4. Try G-area stimulation combined with clitoral stimulation. For many, squirting is specifically linked to dual stimulation. The Womanizer Duo 2 stimulator is designed exactly for this — it combines G-area and clitoral stimulation simultaneously.
5. Give yourself permission to "let go." The sensation preceding squirting is often described as resembling the urge to urinate — pushing through that feeling instead of resisting it is often key.

If You Never Squirt

This is entirely normal and doesn't need any "fixing." Pleasure doesn't depend on this one phenomenon, and many people live entirely satisfying sex lives without it.

With a Partner

If your partner is interested in this, keep the tone playful and pressure-free. Squirting isn't a performance test, and its absence says nothing about a partner's skill or your own body.

Products That Can Help

Toys designed for the G-area, with a curved shape, can make finding and stimulating the right area easier without hand fatigue. The Rithual Kama remote control couples toy allows for sustained, controlled G-area stimulation with a partner too, which can make exploration more relaxed and less tiring on the hands. A waterproof protective sheet removes the practical worry ahead of time.

Worth checking out in Nautintonurkka's selection:

• Rithual Kama remote control couples toy — a G-area-suited, remote-controlled toy
• Womanizer Duo 2 stimulator — combines G-area and clitoral stimulation

In Closing

Squirting is a real physiological phenomenon, but it doesn't happen for everyone and it isn't a measure of pleasure. Curiosity and relaxation get you further than goal-orientation — and if it never happens, nothing is missing from your sex life.